Background

"Our Story" is organized by location, with a drop-down page for location.

We have lived in various places across the Western U.S. and briefly overseas. I served a mission for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints near Washington, D.C. In our early marriage, we desperately wanted to begin a family but endured four years of miscarriages before welcoming our first child, a daughter. Then a son came every two years for the next decade, with five boys joining us. Despite challenges that nearly ended our marriage, we grew stronger. We have experienced cycles of prosperity and poverty and dealt with severe mental illness. Our children have chosen paths different from our faith, but we hope they will one day have experiences with our Savior, like we have. But, if not, they will always be loved and celebrated. I have omitted many of our children’s stories to respect their privacy.

We all often balance multiple professional, community, and religious roles, each with unique demands. Instead of fixating on flaws, ask, "Did I do my best?" If you did your best under your circumstances, you have succeeded. Our worth is determined by Jesus Christ alone. No one else is qualified. We must forgive our mistakes, accept life's realities, create positive ripples, and let go of what we cannot change.

Sometimes trouble comes because of our own poor judgement. Sometimes because of the misdeeds of others. Most often it comes simply as a part of mortality. Life will be unfair, but the Savior guides us through these experiences and offers peace. Ultimately, He will address all injustices, though not until the judgement bar. One day, all questions will be answered, unfairness resolved, and our only limits are those we impose on ourselves. Our trials are our object lessons. What we learn from them is up to us. But Christ’s mercy is available to make us more than we can be alone. 

Friends have encouraged us to share our stories. I (Ron) am the main writer, with Kathy contributing as she prefers. Our differing perspectives have strengthened our bond and fostered compassion.